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Valentines Day Thoughts // Tips on Confidence and Self Love

Mini guide to self confidence and self appreciation + how mentality and perspective can fuel a healthy body and mind


With Valentines day only one week away, I decided to join every other blogger in the universe and do a Valentines Day post. Whether you are lovin' yourself on the 14th of Feb, or you have a special someone you're going to eat expensive food and drink red wine with, I'd really like you guys to step back and really appreciate yourself. To appreciate all that you have, and the people in you life you love and care for (and vice versa). 

I've never hated this day (and I find it strange that people hate a day that was literally created to celebrate love - it doesn't have to be romantic love guys!). I've always found it as a great opportunity to reflect on how the things in my life have changed and how much I am in awe of the wonderful people around me. People I encounter on an every day basis, in real life and on social media.

Growing up, I was conscious of my appearance more than any girl should ever be. I was overweight and constantly finding flaws in myself that I've come to realise were mostly psychological. One day I picked myself up and promised myself I would work hard to be a healthier, happier version of myself. I became vegetarian, lost 25 kilos at the age of fourteen and found a kind of contentment that I had never experienced before within myself.

For some people you're born with it; confidence is that thing in your blood that allows you to truly (and I mean, truly) be yourself. For others, it takes a lot longer and way, way too many hours spent fussing over invisible physical imperfections. 

I've been through enough mental and physical changes in my life to have picked up a few tips along the way. Confidence is something that accumulates only through self-appreciation and looking after yourself. Personally, if I'm eating unhealthy, not exercising or not going outside it will start to show. I'll feel trapped in the mentality that I don't want to do anything- or don't need to. This is something everyone goes through and something that everyone gets over. But here's the tip:

Congratulate yourself every time you achieve something, no matter how small it is.

Technically, we are born into this life with standards that say we all have to do something, be someone. We all have to work, sleep, repeat. We all have to be someone. But...we don't. These are all choices. Maybe you woke up one morning and decided you didn't want to create something out of your life, and you just gave up. That's a decision. For everyone who struggles with appreciating yourself, know this: if you got up this morning to go to work, school, uni or even just out to do something you enjoy, you're doing something for yourself that is beneficial and that alone is something to applaud.

Confidence comes of those moments where you want to make yourself a better person. People get healthier and fitter when they focus on being healthy and stronger, not pretty to look at. They work more and and work harder when they know they're building something great for themselves. When we look after ourselves both physically and mentally- amazing things happen. 

A few small points: 

- A really important thing to note is that people often make the mistake that there is only one portrait of a healthy body. That's not true. When someone reaches a point where they feel content with themselves, that's when they're at their healthiest.

- Confidence also happens when you're not shy about what you loveDo you love watching cheesy 70's sit-coms and wearing seven chokers at once? Do it. Do you love photography? Writing? Fashion or beauty? Do it. Are you scared that people will judge you, or you'll lose people who think you're strange for what you love? You'll find new people who appreciate and empathise with you.

This Valentines Day, do something you love by yourself, with someone special or with your friends. Take this time to appreciate how truly amazing it is that you are where you are!

I hope that something I've said resonated with even one of you guys. Imagine how different society would be if we all embraced ourselves and stopped aspiring to be someone else? Chances are that perfect person that you idolised may not even be representing themselves honestly.


Until next time xx


  1. Loved having a read of this, I'm a single pringle and I'm spending it with my friends. Luckily our birthdays are close so we're treating ourselves to the Theatre! Have a great week :)

    Trishna xx

    1. That sounds perfect haha, I hope you have a wonderful Valentines Day and I'm glad you liked this post! xx

  2. Love the idea of not forgetting to love yourself first- on Valentine's Day and every day! :) Great post, lady!

    Le Stylo Rouge

  3. Most people forget that is also very important to give love to ourselves. I love spending Valentine's day with my friends. Definitely a great day to bound with them and get to know them better.

    Gaby (Gato) Martínez

    1. That sounds so nice! I hope you have a wonderful Valentines Day! xx

  4. Love this blog! My favourite thing about this, is be healthy in who you are, not what you think you should look like, as long as you are happy. Then that can lead to confidence too. Great blog, stop by mine some time :-).

    Top Style Advice | Fashion and Beauty Blog

    1. Thank you! I'm so glad you like it :) Thanks for stopping by xx

      I'll check out your blog now <3

  5. Aah, I'd planned on writing a post about self-love for Vday as well! Definitely agree that taking care of yourself will show and also increase confidence. I really think exercise does wonders for people's body image!

    1. Thank you! I'm super glad you like the post, I love your blog! xx

  6. Wow amazing photos look so gorgeous with the flowers darling!
    Mónica Sors

    1. Thank you Monica! That means a lot :) xx

  7. I love the positivity in this post! Totally all about confidence. I'm really really not the most confident person in the world but I definitely think we should recognize all our little achievements!

    1. Thank you! And yes, we really do! I know it's a lot easier said than done but we can at least try, right? :P xx


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